Frequently Asked Questions

I Am That Friend is a place where survivors of trauma, narcissistic abuse, childhood abuse, trafficking, and complex PTSD can find understanding, education, validation, and hope. My goal is to help you make sense of what happened to you, rebuild trust in yourself, and move toward the life you want to live. 

The objective is to create a meaningful positive impact on the world today and for future generations.

More specifically, I intend to be a beacon of hope and understanding. Like many survivors of childhood abuse, I spent decades conditioned to believe I was worthless, that I should remain silent and compliant, have no needs or boundaries, and exist as little as possible. We are taught to be comfortable with mistreatment, and as a result, we often continue to engage in similar toxic relationships throughout our lives. Unknowingly, we continuously seek out the torturous familiarity that defined our early home environment.

I believe that to stop that cycle, clarity and understanding are necessary. My goal is to help people gain the knowledge and understanding they need to find clarity. With clarity comes hope and healing. Ultimately, this can lead to ending the painful cycle that life has become, stopping generational trauma, and leading to a life they want to live. 

I created this community to be the friend so many of us never had; someone who understands, believes you, and walks alongside you. To create a life that we only look back on, to see how far we've come.

Anyone who can benefit from it.

Many of the people who have benefited have experienced:

Childhood trauma

Narcissistic abuse

Emotional abuse

Sexual abuse

Trafficking

Psychological abuse

Gaslighting

Trauma bonds

Scapegoating

Coercive control

Complex PTSD

Absolutely not. Abuse impacts individuals of all genders, ages, races, and backgrounds. Everyone deserves compassion and the opportunity for healing.

This community is founded on the belief that healing doesn't occur simply because someone urges you to "move on," "get over it," or forget about your experiences. Instead, people heal through understanding, dedication, support, knowledge, and clarity; often progressing just one small step at a time. I aim to accompany you on your journey; I won't judge you, rush you, or dictate who you should become. Healing unfolds one step at a time, and you don’t have to navigate that path alone.

No, I Am That Friend is not a non-profit. 

I Am That Friend is a passion project. The website and resources are provided free of charge. Limited revenue is generated through social media content monetization and Stars. At present, the project is primarily self-funded while the community continues to grow. 

I am not currently selling any products or services. I provide free educational content and healing resources for individuals. 

I Am That Friend is a self-funded passion project. The website and resources are provided free of charge. Limited revenue is generated through social media content monetization and Stars. At present, the project is primarily self-funded while the community continues to grow. 

 You can support this mission by:

• Sharing resources with others. 
• Following on social media. 
• Joining the email community. 
• Encouraging others who may need this support.

See also:  You Can Help! 

Please share links to the website instead of uploading or distributing the files yourself.

That helps support the continued creation of free healing resources for everyone.

I read as many messages as I can, but because of the size of this community, I can't promise individual responses.

The best way to stay connected is through my emails and social media.

No.

I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

My content is intended to support, not replace, professional mental health care.

These materials are based on my own experiences as a survivor of childhood abuse and trafficking, along with the consequences that followed. I have worked hard to heal, taking small steps every day to improve. 

These resources are supplementary and should not be considered a complete solution for your needs. They are not a substitute for professional guidance. I highly recommend that you seek a professional who is a good fit for you and can help you on this path. Various techniques and therapies can be vital in your healing process; they have certainly been game-changers and lifesavers for me.

Your email allows me to stay connected with you even if social media platforms change, experience outages, or remove pages. It also allows me to deliver subscriber-only resources directly to you. 

You will not be spammed, and your information will not be shared. You'll only receive emails related to healing, new resources, updates, and encouragement. I respect your inbox and privacy. 

Every email includes an unsubscribe link, and you can leave at any time. 

Here is a link to our various platforms: Come On In 

 Yes. Every review shared on this website comes from a real person describing their genuine experience.

To protect each person's privacy, I manually upload every review and remove identifying information such as names, profile photos, locations, and other personal details before publishing them.

Protecting the privacy and confidentiality of those in this community is important to me.

Downloadable content is provided at no cost. There are no requirements for a credit card or subscription. To access, enter your email address, confirm your email address, and create a login. 

Here is the link:  Create Account 

Not yet. 

I have written over 30 chapters that share parts of my personal story, but they have not been published in book form yet. If the right opportunity arises in the future, I would love to publish my story so that it can reach and help more people.

Some chapters were previously available on this website, while others had not yet been released. Certain chapters were accessible here and on social media for a period of time, but they have since been removed.

There are important reasons for this decision, which I am not sharing publicly at the moment. I intend to make these chapters available again in the future when the time is right. Thank you for your patience and understanding.

Will new chapters be released in the future? Yes, I plan to re-release the previously published chapters along with additional chapters in the near future. My primary purpose in sharing my story is to help others, and I will proceed in a way that maximizes that impact.